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About a year ago I read an article in the LA Times about an old movie star's terrifying death. The name of the article is enough to explain why I was furious when I read it: "Mummified body of former Playboy playmate Yvette Vickers found in her Benedict Canyon home. The piece said, "Her body appears to have gone undiscovered for months" and, "To the end she still got cards and letters from all over the world requesting photos and still wanting to be her friend. Being famous is also a risk factor for being lonely.

It seems like you cannot develop a good relationship but only shallow ones. Vickers' phone bills are proof to support that idea. In May, a noteworthy article in the Atlantic magazine claimed that Facebook makes us lonelier and indicated that "[s]he had made calls not to friends or family but to distant fans who had found her through fan conventions and Internet sites.

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Vickers' horrible end can happen to anybody while our Web connections go broader and our companionship gets more superficial. Nowadays, our paradox is living isolated but accessible. Yet within this world of instant and limitless communication, with endless time or space, we experience a unique alienation and become more detached from one another.

Thus, we have become a less real society. It's ironic, but the more connected we become, the more lonesome we are. Feeling alone makes us miserable and vulnerable. However, an independent adult can live alone happily and in solitude. That is a natural need for an intelligent, educated individual. Thus, we are unprecedentedly happy when we are in solitude. In some cases crowded parties can be agony, yet solitude can be divine. For many of us, protecting our solitude helps us to connect with God, and that connection is also an invincible enemy of loneliness.

However, separated from the world, we voluntarily live in the shell of our solitude like a cocoon, then end up complaining how lonely we have become. I feel the same only 20 yrs older than you, things have never changed no matter how much I have tried. Nothing was ever good enough, and I too want to die. I had a bother commit suicide 16 yrs ago, we are related so therefore similar tendencies and genetic predispositions.

A lot to due with family and upbringing I think that I have anti-social personality disorder. Especially in this day and age, I cannot even relate I think that I would be happier in a different country but it would take so much energy to pull that off. Anyway, hugs to you Could not figure out what the problem is till I read this statement "Being lonely seems to be about not feeling connected in a meaningful way to others, to the world, to life. I have diagnosed my loneliness. Can you recommend any books so I can overcome my isolation and loneliness? Great article. Was looking for something to read for me abou whatever I've been going through and this hit home.

I know who I am and I'm trying really hard to accept it.

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But the fear of others not accepting me for me, or loving past my flaws gives me sooooo much anxiety that I just shelter myself. I want to be the out going person. It's tough whenever you feel like the outside world views you as ugly or unworthy of their air. Especially at home where my parents and my brother and I are all so different that it's difficult to want to be around them.

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I wish I could make it all change in a flash but it's tough trying to not be lonely while doing it alone. I have been terribly sad and lonely for over 30 years. I am lucky to have kids who love me so I am blessed. I have no friends and have had no romance for all these years. It takes all my strength not to cry but I am never depressed. I am just incredibly sad and lonely.

Even so, I love life and I will never give up hoping that a nice man will want me before I die. Life is beautiful. I wasn't lonely - or aware I was lonely - as a child. I didn't fit in at school and was largely excluded in quite an explicit manner , and was invisible at home, as others have mentioned "well behaved" etc I had friends, but I felt no bond with them.

I eventually bonded with other kids when I was 11 as I felt I had found a group I could "fit" with - people who were like me. What saved me back then was probably my abundant sense of superiority - I was an arrogant, cocky little thing and I didn't mind at all that the other girls didn't seem to want me seeing as I sure as hell didn't want them. I've discovered I'm lonely in adulthood but it took me a very long time to peg it as loneliness. I thought I was just bored for years, but no amount of activities and work could satisfy me - I always felt empty.

The problem I'm having is that I can't imagine connecting with another person. I would like to feel part of a team, part of a group, part of a community in some way and to feel like someone has my back if I fall. It's exhausting to feel like you have to be able to cope with everything and look after yourself because no one will help you if things fall apart. Or I believe people will help me but that they're too fragile or too self absorbed to help for long.

They'd need me to "get better quickly", I tend to think. Or they would scold me, I think, for letting them down or taking up too much space or time. I guess all these messages are things from my childhood really, from my parents, and not applicable anymore. But I feel stuck. I can't imagine having a bond, or feeling close to someone. I have managed it romantically but not for many years - I can't remember what it feels like but never platonically and I'm just not ready to have a boyfriend again.

Dating sounds very stressful and I can't imagine I'll find the one for me on a dating app. People do want to hang out with me, it's not exactly that. But I often just feel so different that even around others I feel alone. I understand the cause clearly. My emotionally cold and manipulative mother and distant alcoholic father left me feeling lost and alone as a child.

I've never been able to shake the feeling. Even a 9 year relationship only lessened it. It never really went away, not even for a moment.

I found most of these comments on lonliness very spot on and accurate. I find if your in school as a child with a mixture of "clever" children who also have fathers with professional jobs, others with working dads and reasonably smart and then the others who may be "poor", perhaps orphaned or with a single parent, if your not in the first group, you tend to feel lower self-esteem and looked down upon by these people, who stay together in a group.

When your self-esteem is down, you find it very difficult to act happy and friendly as time goes by into adulthood. If you tend to be a loner by nature and don't mind it when younger, and can lose yourself in books if you love to read, you can handle it. The time comes tho when you start to date boys if you do , you feel helplesss at your lack of experience and afraid of being used.

It could get so you don't trust any eligible man as you don't trust their motives or your own ability to hold on to them. Being rejected is devastating and can make you very fearful of getting into another losing relationship, thus lonliness is your companion. It gets really distressing when you get old and probably lost all your original family and the lonliness can be overwhelming.

I have empathy for all lonely people, old and young. We were not meant to be alone and to suffer this way. Truly said, due to excessive use of technology we are not mixing up with people to a great extent and this leads to depression in some people. This causes a bad effect on the person's health. To avoid this problem we should have a continuous interaction with people who are nearby us, and wont it be great if the technology helps us achieving this?

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This article brought back memories. I was a socially isolated child, who became a socially isolated teenager, who became a socially isolated adult. I spent 14 years age 16 to 30 having girls tell me that they weren't interested in going out with me. I finally met someone special at age 30 and we're happily married with three wonderful children. But man I honestly don't know how I survived all of those years without killing myself. Going out alone on Friday and Saturday nights was rough. I identify with much of this informative article and some of the comments too.

I have felt so desperately lonely and have put up barriers all my life for fear of being hurt, which has happened so many times in the past, as I am ugly. This greatly affected my esteem, confidence and belonging in any social situation which has now turned to awkwardness and never being myself.

I realise my deportment is pushing people away now. But I am at the point that I don't have the strength to fight any more - fight the loneliness that is and I have feelings of rage, frustration and tears. Desperation is all-encompassing. As an older person, I hope I can find a solution and articles like this are helping me see more clearly. Best wishes to each of you x. I am very creative person and its how I pay my bills.

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Need a graphics designer or a motion graphics expert? At times being alone helps me to be more creative because I am always in my head trying to think of more creative ideas, yet it is no way to live as it has cost me a lot. I have a blog named "What to do when you have no friends and are bored" please read that at Phoenixmen.

Well for many of us good men out there that never met the right woman to get married too, certainly explains it all. But now that most women today have a very big demanding list when it comes to men, even makes it much more complicated for us. They want men to have a full head of hair with no baldness at all, to be in very excellent shape, have a very excellent paying job, must have a million dollar home, drive a very expensive car as well, and they want the men to be very good looking too. Well that is certainly quite a list that these very pathetic women want today i would say unfortunately.

And most women nowadays are real golddiggers to begin with, especially the ones that are very obese and not that attractive at all either. AW Sometimes we're kept lonely by mistaken beliefs. In your case, your have a set of beliefs that would keep any man home on a Friday night.

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But they're not true for most women. I'm a woman, and I like men who are kind and intelligent, who care about others, who care about their work whatever it may be and who make an effort to be physically healthy without being jocks. I actively avoid "big shots" with million-dollar homes and fancy cars and who are too into their looks.

I myself am healthy and well groomed, but I'm not obsessed with appearance. I'm not a gold digger and, in fact, care little about money. I just want a partner who is decent and kind. Altho' I tend to think that things have changed over the past five years -- for the worse and not for the better. I'll be reading a lot of your published articles. As for loneliness, accepting it makes it at least somewhat easier I think. Loneliness can morph into solitude, which is a very positive state.

However, The US is an extroverted country, so enjoying solitude is just so foreign to a lot of people -- most people, I think. And last but not least, we're not taught, from childhood, the benefits of solitude and the art of how to be alone with ourselves and enjoy it. And that, of course, makes loneliness even harder when it comes around. I think my loneliness started all as a child and they way I was raised. My European parents were over protective and strict they emigrated from their country.

We have no family here. Probably did not help being a girl. It was a case of being sensible and not allowed to go to school graduation balls, camping etc so I always felt excluded and somehow less than my peers. Then married young to first boyfriend son of their wealthy friends after dating only a few months. Was going to break it off as there was no true spark there unfortunately was over obedient to my mom who was horrified. So I married. I guess the exciment of the wedding preparation overshadowed everything else. Fast forward I spent my life working, paying off mortgage, weekends were for chores.

Fact is that you can be married and lonely. Now he ignores me. I would just love to have someone to talk to, hang out with.

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We humans need love and affection. Wasting my life crying. Not fun at all if you're a single man like me that really hates it since there are so many disadvantages to go along with being single and alone all the time. Trying going out to a restaurant by yourself since so many people will stare at you, and i feel like i just arrived from another planet. Going anywhere all by yourself just sucks altogether, and had i really met the right good woman from the very beginning which i definitely would've been with her to begin with.

Very difficult finding love for many of us single good men that should've been married already with our own good wife and family that many of us still don't have today unfortunately. Since most women have really changed from the good old days which is the very excellent reason why so many of us men are still single.

Most women just want men with money, and they will never Accept us men for who we really are. Many women are very picky nowadays when it comes to relationships which unfortunately a great majority of these women now are very high maintenance, very selfish, spoiled, greedy, narcissists, and very money hungry as well.

These type of women will just want the very best of all and will never settle for less either, and it is just all about money for most women now. The real good old fashioned women of the past were certainly Real Ladies and the very complete opposite of today which most of them really were at that time. Finding love back then was real easy as well since it was a very completely different time altogether, and both men and women at that time hardly had any money since they were struggling just to make ends meat.

Quite a change in the women today compared to the past. Well, Greg, I'd tell you to read your comment to understand why you are alone, but I'm afraid you still wouldn't get it. Just FYI: I go out to eat alone. No one stares at me. No one is staring at you either. We're just not that important to others. Greg, I think you have nailed it about women today, lots are just interested in money.. Social media does not help either. Today women and men are obsessed with creating a fake social media persona, showing off their gym bodies, fancy lifestyle etc.

As a result they actually become either very arrogant if they are popular or depressed. My single son in his early 30s is the the same situation as yourself and finding it difficult to meet nice girls. Social media definitely has changed people today and the dating scene As I tell my son get out and enjoy your life however you are able to and one day you will find the right person. You still have hope and opportunity for that.

Better alone than with the wrong person. Wish you the best Greg. It's always the fault of the woman. You have to be kidding. Every wo man is an island, as the saying goes, but even so, feeling connected to people is essential for your well-being. In Britain, for example, loneliness has actually been recognized as a pretty significant health concern , and the nation has even appointed its first ever minister of loneliness to address the issue, The New York Times reports.

British Prime Minister Theresa May said in a statement,. Now, just to be clear, being alone isn't the same thing as feeling lonely. Spending time with yourself can be great, but if you're feeling particularly isolated and blue while living alone, consider some of these expert-recommended suggestions to help you feel more comfortable, and keep those lonely vibes to a minimum. That's why it's important to take the initiative to invite people over.

Even if there's not really a special occasion, Bennett suggests throwing a party just for the heck of it. Invite friends over to play video games, watch a movie, and simply enjoy one another's company. Sometimes, feeling really lonely can cause you to sort of shut down, and do nothing but watch a thousand episodes of Riverdale. There's certainly nothing wrong with the occasional Netflix mega-marathon, but when loneliness becomes a constant struggle, Bennett says it's best to get yourself out of the house and be around other people.

Go to a coffee shop to get your work done.