Parent-Child Memories: Love Revealed (Love Revealed Stories Book 2)
I made it through 3 neighbors back yards and to the sidewalk next to a busy street before anyone stopped me. I wish I could remember what prompted me to want to run away. Thank you so much for a great memory.
It seems that you recall quite a few details, which is unusual for a memory dating to such a young age. Research suggests that the experience was emotional and distinctive enough to make it memorable. It's likely that you don't remember why you wanted to run away because running away and its aftermath were more exciting than the reason that prompted it.
Your recall illustrates also how importance changes so dramatically from childhood to adulthood. Most likely the reason seemed so important to you then, but now would be trivial e. Thanks so much for sharing an interesting early experience! My earliest memory has been confirmed to me by my mother as occurring when I was about 8 months old. I have fairly complete and complex memories of my life from that time forward.
However, I began speaking individual words between months, and full sentences by 10 months. My mother also discovered I could read at 2. My extremely early memories run the gamut in subject and content, and are fairly complete. I can even remember dreams I had, and recount conversations I had with family members from the age of about 12 months onward.
I have no idea why any of this is so. As I was born in a very small town in the late 70's, no one really found any of this to be too remarkable. I always thought everyone was that way until I was older, and kids at school said it was weird. By the way, I am not on the autism spectrum, and I do not have any mental or physical illness aside from autoimmune problems and MS, with which I was diagnosed at age I have always wondered if perhaps my ability to remember things from such an early age correlated with my early mastery of speaking and reading. I would assume so, but I haven't been able to find much research on the subject.
Thanks to all for sharing their experiences. I do find this subject fascinating! Your memories are remarkable in their vividness, number, and detail dating to such a young age. Your question about the possible correlation with early mastery of speaking and reading is astute.
During the s, Eleanor Gibson famous for her visual cliff studies with infants at Cornell researched early development and learning to read. She noted that a small number of very young children were, in her words, "paper and pencil" children. By this she meant they learned language very early and had an intrinsic interest in reading and writing. There is some renewed interest today in exploring the characteristics of such early bloomers. The possible connection between early language and memories is consistent with one theory of the more typical "infant amnesia.
My oldest memory that i remember when i was 5 years old i was told that im not real child of my mother,i wasn't part of the family i did'nt remember anymore who told it to me, i wish i remember. I am 25 now and most of my childhood friends have their own family, but i don't see myself having my own family maybe its because of that chilhood memory.
Your memory reminds us that intense emotion contributes to the power of memories to persist and to affect our perceptions of ourselves and others. Sometimes early childhood memories are inaccurate in important details, because young children cannot understand events and information in the same way adults do.
It is difficult to explain social relationships to young children, and your experience reminds us of the importance of explaining such situations only when a child is mature enough and then in terms the child can understand. It is clearer today that family means so much more than the traditional biological model or example once considered the norm. When painful memories dominate, it can be very helpful to explore the more positive experiences and to consider how one can learn from the past and grow beyond it.
It is encouraging to focus on how we can overcome the painful experiences of the past and build the kind of future we want to look forward to. It is most important to learn from the past and grow beyond it. We can thrive as we focus on the present and the future. My father died of cancer in August of I turned 3 in February of I have 3 clear memories of time with my dad before his death. One was the memory of me standing beside him as he drove his pickup. Standing in the seat with my arm on his shoulder.
One memory of him at a small bridge with water flowing over it. He knelt down and scooped up a baby fish for me to see. Last memory was of a white room and my dad laying in a bed with a clear plastic tent over him. My mom later confirmed that was my dad on his death bed in the hospital and the plastic tent was an oxygen tent.
She said he summoned my brothers and I to see him. My mom said he died 10 minutes after we left his room. Thank you for sharing your precious memories of your dad. Your vivid recall of those events when you were so young reflect how important he was to you. It is so powerful to realize that the time we spend with our young children lays the foundation for their future understanding of social bonds. As adults, we might consider a ride in the truck or stopping by a stream to take the time to show our child a small fish to be simple ordinary activities.
It's wonderful to think that in the eyes of the child these can be dramatic, important, and wonderful enough to be remembered for a lifetime. I can recall many events from the age of apprx 8 months maybe ealier - but not exactly sure -because I cannot prove even to myself my earlier memroies - and I know exactly why I remember them It was fun when adults thought I didnt understand things.
And remember how I was learning to speak my native language which helped me to learn some other new languages. And it also helps in communicating with children and animals. It is most interesting that you recall learning to speak your first language and that you remember when adults thought you didn't understand certain things. You would have been in the early stages of learning language between 8 and 12 months. You mention learning other languages as well. Being multi-lingual might contribute to your ability to remember such vivid early memories.
Thank you for sharing your exceptional experiences. I think, if a child has a very happy or very unhappy childhood with the same routine - they forget or want to forget these memories. But I changed location, and had negative and positive experiences, that is why I remmeber. But at some point new interesting events occurred, so I forgot my earliest memories.
I eve wanted to write a book, but not sure if it is interesting for others to read memories smth like 'i hated when I was wrapped in the sheets tight". Your observation that you often rehearsed mentally what had happened before is relevant to your ability to recall very early memories. Rehearsal contributes to memorability, so practicing that would have helped you retain those memories. It's impossible to know, but it is likely that your mental rehearsal was an effort to understand the events in your life.
Young children experience everything from a perspective so different from that of adults, and the struggle to understand is part of the dynamic that enables the child to advance in cognitive development.
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You referred to changing location and having had both positive and negative experiences. Considerable change would stimulate a young child's desire to comprehend in order to gain some sense of predictability and control in their life. Thank you for contributing your insights! My first memory was also my first remembered dream. A baby most likely myself, although I didn't make that distinction in the dream.
What a wonderful memory! And a great dream. A grandfather clock would be most interesting to a young child. I wonder if you dreamed about crawling up the clock, because you would have liked to get closer to the face of the clock to see it more clearly. I would be interested to know if you were familiar then with the nursery rhyme "Hickery, Dickery, Dock. My oldest memory was seeing in live broadcast the moment the World Trade Center's second tower being hit by the airplane.
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I still remember it vividly. I'm Portuguese and I lived in my country at the moment, never been to America or the US but somehow it never left my mind. Thank you for sharing your powerful early memory. Sadly, many vivid memories do reflect the impact of tragic events. Many of the events remembered in what came to be called "flashbulb memories" are traumatic e. Theories of variables that account for the permanence of such memories have focused on the intense emotion, the uniqueness of the event, the importance of the event and in some cases, its personal relevance.
Such memories remind us, too, that we are connected to others, such that events that affect others are important to us as well. Thank you again for contributing such a meaningful memory. My earliest memory was when I was three or four years old. I was sitting on my mother's lap on the living room sofa. It was during the day. I was facing her. I asked, "Do you love me? All of her affect showed that she meant what she said. Then, almost like with tongue in cheek, I began to ask her how much does she love me by comparing her love of me to other things that she may love.
Although I don't remember all of the things that I used as comparison, I guess it would have been of things that I had knowledge. So, for example, it may have been something like "Do you love me more than you love ice cream? To each question, she enthusiastically confirmed that she loved me way more than any of those objects.
Finally, I asked and I remember this one vividly , "Do you love me more than you love God? I don't remember her exact words but she basically let me know that she loves me so much but that no one should ever love anyone else and any thing more than they love God. That resonated with me and I was satisfied with that answer and didn't ask anymore "Do you love me? So, that was my earliest memory. Thank you so much for your most interesting early memory.
Your recall for an event that you experienced at such a young age is incredibly detailed and complex. Your memory is quite distinctive in its inclusion of metacognitive reflection on your motivation and your acceptance of your mother's response. Many people think that young children are concrete in their thinking to the exclusion of abstract reasoning. Your example illustrates how a very young child can begin to reason abstractly, as they reach beyond the concrete reality they know.
Thanks again for sharing such a wonderful early memory. I was standing at our big living room window, and my mother was kneeling next to me with her arm around me. I waved, and my dad waved back and smiled from the pale green Studebaker as he drove off in the snow.
The only time we lived where it snowed and had a Studebaker was the winter of , when I was ten months to a year and one month old. Thank you so much for contributing your very early memory. Your memory is so valuable, because you are able to validate the approximate age at which you had the experience. Most people lack the type of key markers by which to anchor the event in time. Your recall is remarkable for its precise detail e. Your memory is also distinctive, because it is quite unusual to have as much verbal detail along with the non-verbal at such a young age.
Not many memories date to ten to 13 months old, and those that do are generally characterized by non-verbal content. Thank you so much for sharing this very interesting early memory. The earliest memories you can find are those of birth itself or even the moments until conception in the case of James Leininger. The first memory I can recall was of me sitting on my mother's lap. I was quite young, under a year and ten months, and clearly remember the warmth and softness of her body against mine.
I remember how my head fit between her breasts and how her hands gently held me to her. My grandparents were over at the time and were sitting with my parents and I in the sunroom. My mom was in a rocking chair, as I could feel her rocking lightly, and either my dad or my grandfather was sitting in front of us, right next to the window. He had his legs crossed and I think he had a beer in hand--anything above his leg is white in the memory or a grey-ish, shadowy form.
Everyone was happy and laughing loudly, especially my mother, who I was extremely frustrated with. I was repeatedly trying to get her attention with "Mom!
I was moving my lips to speak the words to her, believing I was actually saying them. I now realize I was probably only babbling, which seems about right since the laughter increased with my attempts. Even though I was frustrated with everyone, I was happy they were all there with me.
It's still one of my fondest memories. I know that I was under a year and ten months old because that was the age I was at when my brother was born, and he wasn't in that memory. My grandpa also didn't have a walker in the memory and was still alive he got the walker when I was three and died when I was four. I have three memories with my grandpa still alive, and two before my brother was born. All memories after my first are clearer, are more coherent, and have more vibrant colors in them. Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful memory. Your memory is extraordinary in a number of respects.
It is a memory of an event at one of the youngest ages described in research studies of early memories. It is extraordinary also because of the intimate details, not only of the situations and people around you, but also of your own thoughts and feelings.
Your ability to date the event by temporal markers is important. Many memories date to stories or retelling of the event rather than to the actual experience itself. Although there is no way to validate the total accuracy of very early memories, your approach is very helpful in increasing the likelihood of accuracy. Thank you for contributing such an interesting and beautiful memory. I'd like to share my early memory. Right now I'm 19 years old and the oldest memory I have is from when I was a four months old baby. My mother was holding me in her arms, my dad standing near us while we were standing on a dirt path near a lake.
There was a rope swing hanging from a swing and my four sibilings were all swinging from it into the water. When it was time to leave my brother Ryan begged our parents to ride home in the trunk, I remember seeing him climb in and my parents shut the door I'm not sure if he stayed in there for the whole ride. I remember my other siblings all having to squish into the back seat next to me due to the lack of room.
When I told my parents about this they were shocked, they could hardly remember the events themselves and we're surprised that I could remember because they said I was only about four months old! Hello, I do remember being inside my mother belly hearing things. My mother used to sing to me. I also remember yealling and bouncing a lot. So what are you all talking about? My first memory was one of darkness and a state of consciousness. I didn't think anything, but experienced a state of darkness. That seemed to happen for a long time. My next memory was when I was about 2 years old, standing outside the front of our house, looking through the front screen door and down to the back screen door.
Wanted to pee but didn't know where the loo was. So peed in my pants. Also have plenty of memories before age 5, including waking up and seeing a little old man with a grey beard floating past my bed. What could've been an insightful column instead devolved into yet another cheer lead for diversity.
As if the topic of childhood psychology couldn't possibly be important without. Then, the column derides our memories as "don't inform others who we are," they do, once strung together before going on a tangent taking an important subject like child abuse simply to admonish others for their right to form an opinion. Anyone else feeling sufficiently insulted? My oldest memory was likely before I learned to walk. I remember the feeling of frustration and helplessness, unable to stand on my own legs and being stuck in one place a crib for long periods of time.
Being unable to talk or form words. I also remember being carried by my mother to a birthday party, unclear if it was mine. Thank you so much for contributing your oldest memories. Memories such as these for experiences before a child is verbal are very unusual. Your examples are consistent with the theory that memories for the earliest period of infancy are rare, because they had been stored in non-verbal formats and are therefore difficult to retrieve by adult verbal retrieval cues. As would be expected by the theory, your memories focus on feelings and sensory-motor experiences.
Thanks so much for your valuable contribution! My earliest memory is wen I was about a year old. We were at my grandparents house and my mother and I along with her younger sister were in a back bedroom. I recall my mother handing me to her sister to hold and how frightened I became, wanting to return to my mother's arms.
I'm sure that my mother needed a break from holding me; I was a big girl and heavy, wasn't walking yet and she was 7 months pregnant. I also remember later when I was 18 months old and my brother was 3 months old. I loved to brush my wrist along his lips. His lips were so soft. Thank you so much for sharing your early memories. Recalling such a detailed specific memory from approximately 1 year old is remarkable. Do you have additional memories from this early period between 1 and 2 years old? I appreciate your thoughtful contribution of these rich early memories!
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I have memories that I've dated, with the help of my mom, from the age of I remember a yellow kitchen with a dinette that sat in front of a window that faced the backyard. I remember coming up to the dinette where my mom was drinking coffee with a neighbor lady. When I looked up at my mom, she gave me a teaspoonful of coffee. The sun was shining and it was one of the few happy memories for me concerning my mom.
The abuse started very young I also remember being in the living room, which had light green walls, with a hallway to the bedrooms, jumping on the sofa with my two brothers, in front of a picture window. I knew we weren't allowed to do this, but it sure was fun! Thank you so much for sharing your very early memories. Having your mother's help in verifying the age of these experiences is especially valuable. You didn't mention it, but I wonder if your brothers remember similar experiences. I hope that the resilience you show in your post has benefitted you over the years.
I know many readers will appreciate that you have shared these memories. I too have an extremely vivid recall of many events from when I was very young. I am very spatially keen and later learned I have spatial-synethesia since many things have "location" such as months of the year, numbers, days of the week, etc. Not to sound odd, but for those who don't understand, I see things with location when I think of them in my head, January is up to the left at , September my birth year is directly below me at Anyways I have a lot of memories with near picture quality of places I only lived when very young.
I completely described an apartment my mother lived in that I later discovered she moved out of when I was only 7 months old.
Location of rooms, windows, furniture, my crib, bouncer chair, everything. Even where the nightlight in the kitchen was plugged in. I know that we lived upstairs in the apartment, and the catwalk out of the door required a right turn to leave, never left. I remember leaving one day and my diaper was messy and my mom was in some kind of rush, so a neighbor took the diaper bag, opened our front door and changed me on the floor literally on the welcome mat inside our place.
I remember the layout of all our relatives houses, where pictures were, paint colors of walls, and even odd things like conversations about maternity clothes that I only understood later in life by replaying the conversations in my head. I remember both years of preschool Sept birthday and the cutoff for kindergarten literally changed by a month, forcing me into a 2nd preschool year. I remember riding the bikes and how one had a really big front tire that made it faster.
I remember a substitute in preschool who wouldn't let us run up the slide when our teacher normally would let us. I remember the fireman coming and talking, I remember the police SUV and the dog that jumped out of the back window when he hit a remote. I remember the bus driver to my preschool was friends with my mom and had a little foam lizard on a metal stick that he named and talked to like a pet. I remember on St. Patricks day they laid out foam footprints out of our room when we returned from lunch as if leprechauns came and we followed it to a pot of candy around the hallway.
Just too many things to list here really.
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I find it odd how good my memory was at these ages. Also randomly I have a very keen sense of smell too. Always the first in a room to notice a new smell. Would love to hear if others have the same recall beyond one or two memories. I can think of tons. I find your exceptional memory for very early experiences most interesting.
Your spatial synesthesia might account at least in part for the number and vividness of your memories from such a young age. The Russian neuropsychologist, Luria, theorized that the incredible memory displayed by the famous mnemonist he had studied might have been due in part to his synaesthesia. Synaesthsia is experiencing sensations from a stimulus in a modality different than the one in which the stimulus is received e.
It is also possible, though, that additional variables contributed to the memorability of your early experiences. Consider aspects of your life that might relate to which events have been remembered. Similarly, more emotional events are more likely to be remembered. Freud theorized that in some cases the emotion associated with an event can be repressed, while the event remains in memory and may be puzzling as to why the event is memorable. Only you can identify any important aspects of your early life that might have contributed to your vivid memories in addition to you spatial-synesthesia.
Thanks so much for sharing your remarkable ability and rich early memories. I am 54 year old guy and can remember when I was a child that I had a terrible earache when I was 4 or 5 years old which would have been in the late 's. I remember being treated with drops in my hurting ear and given sweet pink medicine. I can also remember being held by my mother and this memory came to me out of nowhere when I heard an Everly Brothers song. My parents are both no longer living so I have no way to affirm when this happened but I was wondering if this is unusual?
Thank you so much for sharing your early memory. Your memory illustrates features that are important to and frequently associated with early childhood memories. Not all childhood memories are for totally happy events. As your memory shows, the pain of an earache can make the experience memorable.
I'm so glad you shared this reminiscence, because it can remind us of how important nurturing relationships during early childhood are.
Only by asking the right questions, with an open mind, can I begin to find the truth. I never knew what was wrong with me and I'm still trying to figure it out to this day. But this book was the very first book that I read where a character delineated my feelings to the core. It taught me that though I may think differently, I could overcome those obstacles and continue through life. It was also the first time I read a book outside of a Christian perspective.
It broadened my mind to the livelihood of science and the true significance it has in our daily lives. I will forever be grateful to this book and it's wonderful author. When things don't turn out the way you planned, life is still good. I especially like Dahl's message at the end of the book: 'A message To the children who have read this book.
When you grow up and have children of your own, do please remember something important. A stodgy parent is no fun at all! We were really learning together, and children's books helped us both along the transition - me at age 6 or 7, him in his late 20s. I also loved how beautifully graphic the book was. She was someone we could relate to physically as well as emotionally. Princess Amy taught me that I could be a princess and still climb trees and be independent, that getting married and looking perfect did not have to be the only dream I had for myself, but also that falling in love with someone who understands you is one of the most beautiful things in the world.
I was so attached to the dogs, Old Dan and Little Ann, and my ten year old self didn't live in a world where dogs died. I remember sobbing as I was reading the last parts of the book. I was devastated! My mom wound up telling the school librarian about how much it moved me, and our sweet librarian gave me one of the school's copies. I still have it today! It was the first book I read that affected me on an emotional level.
I was 7 years old. She died of breast cancer when I was 16 and I held her hand and read this book to her as she took her last breath. The book is featured on a shelf in the foyer of my home and I think of her every time I see it. I look forward to sharing this story with my own family. We hope to get a tattoo with that saying one day. I plan on reading this book to my kids one day just like she read it to me. I read it so many times the book fell apart and had to be replaced. I know now how moralistic it is and how flawed in certain ways, but that takes nothing away from my happy memories.
Nor does it detract from the fact that my vocabulary grew by leaps and bounds! She defeats the dragon, but her prince is ashamed of the way she is dressed, so she basically tells him where to stick it. This was the beginning of girl power for me. The princess does the rescuing and her life does not revolve around a wedding or prince. She knows exactly who she is and she embraces it!
I don't at all regret being late to read them, I think they came to me at the best possible time. Now whenever I have one of my anxiety attacks I think of the Fillyjonk with her china kitten and how terrible it is that nobody understands how afraid you are, and how relieving it is when the worse actually happens and you have nothing to fear anymore.
I think it's when I discovered that injustice hurt me, even when not directed at me. It's about two children who are living in war torn Virginia during the final days of the Civil War. The book struck me as being powerful as it made me think about what I would do if I lost my parents and how I would handle the situation as I am the oldest of four children in my family. It was a very moving and it also sparked my interest in history as I am now a history major in college.
Not to mention my dad would threaten to call Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle and give me a "cure" if I started to develop a nasty habit. It really made me think of what I was doing, and my parents still blame me being a pretty good child on those books. Either way, the books definitely affected the way my brain works and helped me find the bizarre in seemingly normal objects and situations. They made me love poetry too. Lewis was able to write a story about the creation of a world, and then its end, and make those books for children, is still something I marvel at. He never talked down to his readers, but assumed that children had the same kind of sense of humor and delight in detail that he did.
And he was right. As a child I had a very bad lisp. I had to attend a speech class to correct it. And every session, my speech teacher would have me read aloud from that book. Now, that lisp is only a memory. It's the most precious thing you can have, and sometimes even adults need a place to escape to to fight giants and be a queen somewhere. It was so hard for me and no one knew why.
My 5th grade teacher suggested my parents have me tested for any possible issues and it was through that I discovered that I am dysphonic and dyslexic. I knew what dyslexia was and that made sense. Dysphonia means I don't really understand the phonetics of the english language. So when everyone would say "sound it out", I couldn't. The summer between 5th grade and 6th grade, my mom gave me the first two Harry Potter books and while it was still hard, because of the story line, I spent an entire week reading the first book. My mom had never been so happy I barely left my room.
In class, the teachers would have us "popcorn read" and I dreaded being called because I stuttered and I was really slow. In 6th grade, they told us if we read a book and take a test on it, we would get points that would add up at the end of the year and we could bid for prizes. So I started listening to Harry Potter because it had a lot of points.
I fell in love with the characters and the story. I became a reader. I grew comfortable reading out loud with a lot of practice and enjoy it now. Although they were set in the early s, the depiction of childhood and growing up was so relatable to me many years later. My love of these books introduced me to many friends who also love the series and encouraged me to open an online children's bookstore. It opened my eyes to a whole new set of beliefs, and led me to question a lot of what the church had tried to teach us growing up. And still do. It's touching, the characters are lovable, and it taught me that I don't need to be someone that anyone else tells me to be.
I like to think I'm the stubborn, reluctant, anti-social grump I am today because of Jill Tomlinson and Plop. It was the first school book I read ahead of the assigned schedule and several times on my own accord.
During the time I was reading it, we were learning about Martin Luther King Jr and the great civil rights leader of his era and the book really put it all into perspective from a child's outlook. Only you know. Follow your dreams no matter how silly, if it feels right for you, do it. Her home felt like mine when I was a first grader and to this day, I can recall every image with clarity. The book was so abstract to my seven-year-old brain, and the wide array of colors was astounding. I still have a copy of the book today. And growing older, I realized how much my mom has been there for me and how I will be there for my kids just like she was for me and for her when she is older.
Every time we read it, I could feel the truth behind the words my mom was reading. I didn't have a great father and knowing I had a mother that loved me without a doubt was my saving grace. As I got older and I started reading it to my mom, I tried to put as much feeling behind the song at the end so that she would know that I felt the same about her.
It also encouraged me to this day to try to get to know people I would normally avoid. It was very hard for me when he was gone. Reading The Velveteen Rabbit helped me cope by imagining that my stuffed rabbit was somewhere magical, watching over me. I still find time to reread it because makes me happy and nostalgic about my childhood friendship with my stuffed rabbit. It helped me see how interesting and complex math could be, something I struggle to remember in my calculus class every day. I remember reading the first part in class and I finished it that night because I was to excited to put it down.
It opened my eyes to reading and taught me how to treat others. It also says everything I want my daughter to know.